Monthly Archive: November 2007

I spotted today that I was getting mildly angry at just about every little thing that happened.  If HP sends me a box to ship my computer back to them in, I complain to the FedEx person that they were only supposed to send a label…  if someone asks me about my foot, I give them the whole long story about how I have been ignored about my feet hurting all my life…  if I get 3 catalogs in a week from one company (which I love, but only buy a few items per year from) I call and complain about how many trees they are killing for my paltry amount of business.

Things get settled in the end, but I’m working myself up over piddly stuff.  These are symbolic victories, and my mental health is far more important than symbolic victories.

I just got off the phone with my ex-wife, Beth, who helped me remember my Recovery, Inc. tools… but of course, I had to spot the issue and ask for Recovery help first, so I’m endorsing myself for the spotting and for taking action.

Several spottings come to mind.

Humor is our best friend, temper is our worst enemy.  Recovery teaches that our mental illness is caused by accepting temper.  There are two kinds of temper, angry temper (that someone is doing us wrong) and fearful temper (that we have done something wrong).

This is angry temper, that I have been ignored, that something is always wrong so it must be aimed at me.  I need to remember that my mental health is my number one priority, and treat it as a business.  Letting my temper take control of me is being lazy, is not taking my mental health as a business.  I am trying for Peace , not power.  I am endorsing myself for the effort, not for the result.  However, I am happy to report that the result is my tension draining away.

I also have been dealing with fearful temper, as my 55th birthday is approaching.  On top of that my mother is injured (broken leg) and her age is a factor in her healing.  Many of you reading this have been abused (mostly females abused by their father or a close male relative), and you know how hard it seems to be to work on your issues after your abuser has passed.  While my mother was not, in the classical sense, my abuser, there are certainly issues I’m working on regarding her.  So I have the fear that she won’t be there to support me, AND won’t be there to rage against (which is again something I need to NOT do, peace over power again).  And various other things…

Anyhow.  I am doing the best I can do in managing my life — which I cannot say when I am letting my issues run over me. 

Beth helped me by reading passages from “Mental Health Through Will Training,” the marvelous book written by Abraham A. Low, M.D., which has helped me put my head back together.  We also had a few laughs (like when she couldn’t say “organism” and instead said “orgasm” … silly Scorpio).  Laughter is our best friend…

So that’s what’s happening in my life.  I endorse myself for writing this down, to fix in my mind better what I am working on, and why, and how.  It also gave me a chance to help others (reading this) by exposing them a little bit to something that helps me.

Hugs,
Me

I talked to my mom today.  She seems to be settling in to the rehab facility, and will be there for about 2 months before being sent home.

I saw the podiatrist today (Wednesday).  He says I should start wearing my shoe again, instead of the heavy cam boot.  I dunno, it does look better but still hurts like hell.

Anyhow, thanks for all your thoughts and prayers, another step was taken.

Hugs,
Me

Followup to Sprint Customer Service?

I Googled the phone number, and found that hundreds of people have questioned this call.  Several have reported it to Sprint or posted to the Net about us (see, for instance, http://whocalled.us – do a Google Search, the number is 877-304-6446).  Some reported that they were calling every day from that number.

One person stated that he got far enough in the phone call that they asked for his debit card number to charge a new phone.  That sounds like where the woman I talked to was heading.

Hugs,
Me

Sprint Customer Service?

I may have just stopped myself from being the victim of a scam.  I am not sure.

I received a call on my cell phone.  When I answered, I heard enough noise to know I had connected but nobody was there.  I redialed the number, and they answered, “Can I help you?”  I said that they had just called me.  They identified themselves as Sprint and asked me if I had a Sprint/Nextel phone.  Well, I do…  they asked for my name, and then for the last 4 numbers of my SSN.  I gave them my name, and then stopped myself before giving out my SSN info.  There was no identification on my phone other than the phone number, so how did I know they were Sprint?

I asked what the call was about, and she said it was just a courtesy call, making sure I was getting good service.  If that was the case, why did they need my SSN (even the last 4 numbers)?  I then asked why, if they were being courteous, they were calling me knowing that I was paying for minutes.  Her response was, well, we’re Sprint, when we call you you don’t get charged.  I said, well, you are not identified on my phone as being Sprint, and I had to call you back due to not connecting when you called me.

Sometime around then I got angry and hung up.  She was not willing to give ME any identification.  So I called my *2 (Sprint Customer Service).  The representative there was nice and asked what the number was… I stated I did not write it down (and could not check the number while I was on the same phone).  He stated that most of Sprint’s numbers were 800 or 866, and I should check the number and call back.

I did so.  It took a bit of time to get the new customer support person to understand why I was calling, but she put me on hold and checked the number.  After about 4 minutes on hold, she stated that she could not find that number in the Sprint directory.  So I asked her to report the situation, hopefully to prevent others from being scammed who were not as suspicious as I am.

I’m putting this out there to let everyone know not to give out information until you totally trust the party you are speaking with… and I know that in some cases you will be wrong anyhow, but it just pays to be suspicious.  In this case, there were no giveaways or hype (yet, but maybe I didn’t let her get around to it), and there was just BARELY enough to get me suspicious.  Maybe it WAS from Sprint, but just maybe scammers are getting smarter.

Hugs,
Me

I wanted y’all to know that I really appreciate your comments and prayers, for me and whoever else is important to me as reported in this blog.  I don’t always reply to each of you, but I always read your blogs (as I’ve subscribed to) and you are all in my thoughts as your challenges arise.

Hugs,
Me

I got off the phone with Mom just a few minutes ago.  Apparently they won’t be keeping her in the hospital past Monday, then they’re transferring her to a rehabilitation facility…  she’s trying to make sure they send her to one which does not mix their injury patients with their Alzheimer patients…  she will be wearing the cast for about 2 months.  She says Dad is trying to keep a brave face on things…

Hugs,
Me

I talked to Mom yesterday.  The surgery was successful, she is now in a cast from mid-thigh to foot with only her toes showing.  She seemed in good spirits.

Happy Thanksgiving to all.  Please take some time today to remember the people who are disenfranchised by the current system, as we disenfranchised (and killed) the natives during the era this day recalls.  Change the culture.  If nothing else, visit rethos.com

Hugs,
Me

Today an orthopedic doctor told Mom that she won’t need the plate, that he can just reset the leg and hopefully it will heal properly.  Being 2400 miles away, I don’t know if this is his idea of “best medical practice” or “cheapest medical practice”, but we can hope for the best and pray hard.

Hugs,
Me

From my Dad (edited for privacy):

Mom is in the Coast Plaza Doctors Hospital in Norwalk CA.

Looks
like she will be there for a long time.  Her left leg is broken at the
top of the tibia just before it enlarges to the knee joint. It is a
slanting break and Dr. Allen said it is the worst kind and takes the
longest to heal because very little blood gets to that area. She will
require an orthopedic surgeon to put a plate in her leg to hold the
joint together while it is healing.  Looks like a long siege.

Cancel Thanksgiving plans! Looks like ours will be at the hospital.

I just got an email from my dad.  My mom fell in a drug store and broke her leg below the knee.  The doctor said it would be a long time healing.  Prayers and energy are welcome.

Hugs,
Me