Monthly Archive: May 2015

Tools

My life seems to be so much better than I can ever remember it. It wasn’t easy getting here. One thing I have used to get here might be called “tools”, ways I change my attitude about a situation before I can actually change the situation itself.

One very important tool I’ve used is to take personal responsibility for my actions through my words, as opposed to telling someone else how to do things to get better. I may not have all the details of your situation, I may not understand all the nuances, but if it reminds me of something I came up against I’m happy to tell you how I changed my situation. If it helps, great; if not, I’m not judging you or trying to make you feel bad.

I have noticed that some people just want to feel bad and want me to join in the party. Their response to my offering this type of help is, “It’s all about you! Blah blah blah.”

Sorry, but I’m not going to go there. It is all about me in my life, and you are all about you. That’s the way it should be. I’m not responsible for fixing you and I’m not trying to do that, just hoping you find something to think about and see how you might apply it to your life.

I am not a motivational speaker, I don’t have any x-step plans, it’s your life and I respect that. Sometimes I allow myself to be hurt by the fact that some people I try to help don’t respect me and my life, but there’s nothing I can do about that either except to not accept the slam and not join their party.

Guess that’s all I have to say on that right now. Maybe I could have said it better, I’m always looking for ways to improve.

Hugs,
Me

Diversionary Tactics

I’ve been given a new task, and have been spending all my non-work time working on a Facebook page and a website for Triad Bardic College… The website is http://triadbardic.org. Things are good and continue going well. The only thing I might complain about is actually someone else’s problem.

Happy Beltane

I just returned from a lovely weekend with my spiritual Family, belatedly celebrating Beltane in the woods at our usual site. It was incredible, and we had the best Bardic event in recent memory. I’m exhausted but happy, and have yet to unload my car. I hope you all had a blessed Beltane whenever and wherever you celebrated it.

I took a large box of books and sold nearly half of them (at bargain-basement prices), making me a decent amount of money. I also collected what was owed on an earlier sale of a netbook. Good times plus money equals happiness, LOL.

Hugs,

Me

Catching Up Yet Again

I continue to work my new job. While I don’t particularly *like* the guy I’m working for, he needs the help, and so far he dislikes me considerably less than many of the other staff. It’s easier work than before, and as I’m only working 3 days per week (longer hours) it’s about the same amount of gas and I get really long weekends, so overall I’m happy with the new job. My co-workers are a good group of people, and I have options should I choose to no longer work at this house.

I’ll get back to work on fixing the car as the month comes to an end. Tires and injectors are first on the list, struts lower down. I’m really feeling good about how I handled the task and the debt.

Life is moving forward at a nice pace with good possibilities, for all of which I am thankful. If not everyone around me is thankful for their lot, I can offer help without taking responsibility, which is also a new thing for me.

The next steps are within sight. I will continue to take them.

Hugs,
Me