My life seems to be so much better than I can ever remember it. It wasn’t easy getting here. One thing I have used to get here might be called “tools”, ways I change my attitude about a situation before I can actually change the situation itself.
One very important tool I’ve used is to take personal responsibility for my actions through my words, as opposed to telling someone else how to do things to get better. I may not have all the details of your situation, I may not understand all the nuances, but if it reminds me of something I came up against I’m happy to tell you how I changed my situation. If it helps, great; if not, I’m not judging you or trying to make you feel bad.
I have noticed that some people just want to feel bad and want me to join in the party. Their response to my offering this type of help is, “It’s all about you! Blah blah blah.”
Sorry, but I’m not going to go there. It is all about me in my life, and you are all about you. That’s the way it should be. I’m not responsible for fixing you and I’m not trying to do that, just hoping you find something to think about and see how you might apply it to your life.
I am not a motivational speaker, I don’t have any x-step plans, it’s your life and I respect that. Sometimes I allow myself to be hurt by the fact that some people I try to help don’t respect me and my life, but there’s nothing I can do about that either except to not accept the slam and not join their party.
Guess that’s all I have to say on that right now. Maybe I could have said it better, I’m always looking for ways to improve.