Here’s the letter I sent out with my holiday cards; hope you enjoy it.


December 8, 2004

Dear Family and Friends,

Happy Holidays!  We hope the past year has been a good one for each of you.  It was the best year ever for me.

I have now been free of all prescriptions for over a year.  I have
been helping many other people learn how they can do the same.  I
feel better than ever, thanks to the other things I am doing for my
health.  I am running 6 online groups and two local self-help
groups.  Some years it has felt that I would never get to this
point, and that I would feel miserable all the time.  I do not
trust a psychiatrist to look out for anyone’s interests save those of
the pharmaceutical companies.  My website
( has the information on what I have
replaced these harmful drugs with.

Anyhow, I have been feeling better and better, and have been getting
more involved in the community, both local and online.  I am
currently managing 4 websites and am building a commercial website for
my old friend Blind Lemming Chiffon (  I
am on two local non-profit boards and consult on another one.  I
have re-connected with my local/regional religious community, and have
gotten many comments on how much better and happier I look.

And on top of everything else, there is a wonderful lady named Kayla
Dodd in my life.  This time I’m healthy enough to enjoy it and not
have my so-called “disease” get in the way of my relationship. 
Kayla moved here in October and we were Handfasted in early
November.  Everything is simply wonderful between us.  She
has found work in the area, and is very motivated to contribute in
every way to our relationship.  She has gained the love and
confidence of my friends as well.  I’m still getting used to the
“us”-ness of the situation, and I’m sure next year’s letter will be
jointly authored.

Last December, my ex-wife Beth contacted me, and we have renewed our
friendship.  We love and trust each other more than we did when we
were married, 15 years ago, and she has become friends with Kayla (she
has known Kayla longer than I have been involved with her), and has
been looking out for both of us.  I am still in contact with
Laura, my most recent ex, and Janet is talking to me as well; several
ex-girlfriends are also maintaining contact.  I’m glad to be able
to maintain friendly relationships with people who have been a part of
my life.

While my finances are improving, I was not able to get out to L.A. for
my grandmother’s 100th birthday, and it could be another couple years
before I can manage a visit on my own.  When I woke up from my
doctor-induced stupor, I found myself pretty badly in debt; with much
help from my parents and newly-learned levels of responsibility, I have
cut it by more than half, and should be mostly out of debt in another
two years.  I know y’all don’t NEED to know this, but it is
another sign of my growing health.

My performing career has taken a stutter-step forward.  I had two
major concerts this year, at science fiction conventions in Raleigh and
Asheville.  I’ve sold a few more copies of my CD and lyric
books.  A student at UNC-Asheville asked to record me in the
school studios.  The result wasn’t great, and most of the
recordings were lost in the computer, but one song survived the
experience.  My friend John Blackwell is also “threatening” to get
his studio together and finish the job, and Blind Lemming Chiffon has
offered to underwrite part of the project in exchange for my work on
his website.  It would be good to get some professional recordings
of my music.  I may be getting old, but I can still make music.

Speaking of which, it is hard to believe I’m 52 now.  I don’t feel
it at all, unless you ask my back and ankles.  If you had asked me
when I was 30, I would have thought that I would never make it this
far.  Now I’m looking forward to another 52 years (one friend has
prophesied that I have another 58 to go; wishful thinking?).

Here’s hoping the coming year treats us all as well or better as the
past one did.  Thank you all for being a part of my life.


Comments (2)

  1. Anonymous

    (((Hugs))) to you.  …you are an inspiring man, you know.  Good for you! 

  2. Irishlass

    Congrats to you!  Kudos for coming as far as you have!  You have a lot to be damn proud of!  Hugs to you, my friend!
    As far as my family, I think I need to order up a new one!  lol………..thanks for the wishes, though!


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