Monthly Archive: September 2005

The true measure of a man is how he treats someone who can do him absolutely no good.
– Samuel Johnson

The best way to get the last word is to apologize.
– Anon.

you want to go beyond the body, learn to use it in a loving way. Think
and speak well of yourself and others. Be positive, constructive,
helpful. Don’t look for problems. Don’t dwell on what seems missing.
Give love at every opportunity. Bring it to yourself when you are sad.
Bring it to others when they are doubting or negative. Be the presence
of love in the world. That is what you are. Everything else is an
– Paul Ferrini, Miracle of Love

Expecting the
world to treat you fairly because you are a good person is a little
like expecting the bull not to attack you because you are a vegetarian.
– Dennis Wholey

The cave you fear to enter holds the treasure you seek.
– Joseph Campbell

people attempt to live their lives backwards; they try to have more
things, or more money, in order to do more of what they want, so they
will be happier. The way it actually works is the reverse. You must
first be who you really are, then do what you need to do, in order to
have what you want.
– Margaret Young


If you have the
ability to complain about something, you also have the ability to take
the positive action that will make it better. And taking positive
action is infinitely more effective than merely complaining.

you have cause to get angry, then you also can turn the energy of that
anger in a positive direction. You can then resolve the situation in a
way that is peaceful and valuable for all concerned.

If you have
reason to be frustrated, you also have the motivation necessary to get
beyond whatever is frustrating you. Whether you work to eliminate the
cause of your frustration or grow beyond it, no frustration ever has to
continue troubling you.

If you have experienced disappointment,
you also have learned a valuable lesson. Go forward, apply what you
have learned, and transform your disappointment into a positive turning

If you have known loss and sadness, then you also have
gained a profound understanding of how very precious life is. Take the
opportunity, for which you’ve paid so dearly, to raise yourself to a
whole new level of meaning and fulfillment.

If you face a
difficult challenge, you also have the opportunity to grow stronger,
more capable, wise, experienced and resilient. Embrace those
opportunities, for in them you will find the sweet substance of life.

– Ralph Marston


We are born into the World
Like a blank canvas
And every person that crosses our path
Takes up the brush
And makes their mark
Upon our surface
So it is that we develop
But we must realize there comes a day
That we must take up the brush
And finish the work
For only we can determine
If we are to be
Just another painting
Or a Masterpiece

– Javan

Top Ten Reasons to Speak
1. To acknowledge kindness, courage, worthy efforts and personal bests.

2. To offer help, assistance, encouragement; particularly to encourage
those who have reached for the stars and just failed to reach them…
this time!

3. To say ‘I love you’… in the way which is appropriate.

4. When the conscience or intuition prompts. How often have you been in
a silent room where there is something crying out to be said?

5. To share grief or anguish with a trusted friend.

6. To ask for help when doing so is difficult.

7. To encourage the development of creative workplaces which honor all associated: staff, clients or customers and staff.

8. To acknowledge being wrong and to apologize. The more difficult the
apology, the greater the need to speak and the more we grow.

9. To help identify your personal ‘group of ten’. These are those who
unfailingly encourage and support you, make you laugh and whose
feelings you reciprocate. These are the people you love the most.

10. To spread joy.

– Rev. Thomas Gordy



Are you tired of all those namby-pamby, girly, sissy, completely wet
“friendship” poems, that never come close to reality?  Well, here
is a series of promises that really speaks to true friendship:

1 . When you are sad – I will help you get drunk and plot revenge against the sorry bastard who made you that way.

2. When you are blue – I will try to dislodge whatever is choking you.

3. When you smile – I will know you’ve finally got laid.

4. When you are scared – I will tease the crap out of you about it every chance I get.

5. When you are worried – I will tell you horrible stories about how much worse it could be and to stop your bloody whining.

6 . When you are confused – I will use little words.

7. When you are sick – Stay the hell away from me until you are well again, don’t want whatever you have.

8. When you fall – I will point and laugh at your clumsy ass.

Remember: A good friend will help you move. A really good friend will
help you move a body. Let me know if I ever need to bring a
shovel.   A good friend will bail you out. A true friend will
be sitting next to you saying “we really fucked up this time”.


Alice, the town gossip and supervisor of the town’s morals committee,
recently accused Tom, a local man, of being an alcoholic because she
saw his pickup truck parked outside the town’s only bar.

Tom stared at her for a moment, and said nothing.

Later that evening, he parked his pickup truck in front of her house and left it there all night.


The person resolute in the Way must from the beginning never lose sight
of it, whether in a place of calm or in a place of strife. Beware of
clinging to quiet places and shunning those where there is disturbance.



With Each Day…

May I positively impact the life of another, and smile more than frown;

Put service and compassion before my own renown;

Meet adversity with courage, sorrow with hope;

Have Faith to face uncertainty, and resiliency to cope;

With joy as my companion, and truth as my guide;

May I walk the path of excellence, gaining knowledge with each stride;

To see the good that lies within each person in suppression;

And through love and understanding, bring it forth into expression;

Though this day may bring new challenges, yet not manifest;

May I ever be reminded how much my life is blessed.

– Robert Akers


We do not want churches because they will teach us to quarrel about God.
– Chief Joseph
Distinctions must be defended.  Give up the distinctions and the need to defend disappears.
– Carson’s Commentary

You’ve no idea how hard I’ve looked for a gift to bring You. nothing
seemed right. What’s the point of bringing gold to the gold mine, or
water to the Ocean. Everything I came up with was like taking spices to
the Orient. It’s no good giving my heart and my soul because you
already have these. So, I’ve brought you a mirror. Look at yourself and
remember me.
–  Jalaluddin Rumi


Earth teach me stillness
as the grasses are stilled with light.

Earth teach me suffering
as old stones suffer with memory.

Earth teach me humility
as blossoms are humble with beginning.

Earth Teach me caring
as the mother who secures her young.

Earth teach me courage
as the tree which stands alone.

Earth teach me limitation
as the ant which crawls on the ground.

Earth teach me freedom
as the eagle which soars in the sky.

Earth teach me resignation
as the leaves which die in the fall.

Earth teach me regeneration
as the seed which rises in the spring.

Earth teach me to forget myself
as melted snow forgets its life.

Earth teach me to remember kindness
as dry fields weep in the rain.

– John Yellow Lark, Ute Nation

Many people are either unwilling
or unable to suffer the pain of giving up
the outgrown which needs to be forsaken.
Consequently they cling, often forever,
to their old patterns of thinking and behaving,
thus failing to negotiate any crisis,
to truly grow up and to experience
the joyful sense of rebirth
that accompanies the successful transition
into greater maturity.

M. Scott Peck


Believe nothing just because a so-called wise person said it.
Believe nothing just because a belief is generally held.
Believe nothing just because it is said to be of divine origin.
Believe nothing just because someone else believes it.
Believe only what you yourself test and judge to be true.

 – Gautama Buddha


If the devil exists – and he does not exist as a separate, independent being – he exists only as a personification of the collective ego, as a description of a being who is attempting to live in a way contrary to the will of God. If God is all powerful, which S/he is, because S/he is All That Is, then the devil can stand apart from God only with God’s permission. If there is a devil – if there is evil in the world – it can only exist because God allows it to exist. Why would God allow evil to exist in the world? Why would God allow one of his angels to fall? The answer is “S/he does not.” There is no such thing as evil. There is no such thing as the devil. What you see is not evil, but the perception of evil. You perceive that people are bad. And indeed, their actions seem to confirm this. But they are not bad, although their actions may be unloving and cruel.

Paul Ferrini, Miracle of Love


When love is present, the body and the world are lifted up. They are infused with light, possibility and celebration of goodness. The world you see when Spirit is present in your heart and your life is not the same world that you see when you are preoccupied with your ego needs.

Paul Ferrini, Miracle of Love


Before you respond, call time out and give yourself a chance to look at your options. Which response is empowering to you without threatening the other person? Which response honors both of you? You do not have to respond to the fearful words and actions of other people. You can respond to what lies behind their words and actions. You can give them the love and respect they are seeking from you. When they feel that from you, their hostility toward you will cease.

Paul Ferrini, Miracle of Love


I have said it before and I will say it again: Religious dogma, self-righteousness, and false pride create division, ostracism, and alienation. They are the tools of judgment, not of love. You cannot follow me and think you know what life means or what God intends. My disciples learn to look upon all that happens with an open heart and an open mind. They grow increasingly willing to surrender their narrow beliefs and prejudices. They refrain from condemning themselves or others for the mistakes they make, but try to learn from these mistakes so that they will not repeat them.

Paul Ferrini, Miracle of Love


It was people such as my wife who told me point-blank at various times in my life that I was drinking the wrong liquids, eating the wrong foods, gaining some weight, being too aggressive or self-indulgent, being too focused on my money, or losing sight of my purpose. These truth-tellers brought the light back into my life where shadows were slowly creeping in.

Wayne Dyer, There’s a Spiritual Solution to Every Problem


The spiritual path is simply the journey of living our lives. Everyone is on a spiritual path; most people just don’t know it.

Marianne Williamson, A Year of Daily Wisdom


Where we have an attachment to results, we tend to have a hard time giving up control.

Marianne Williamson, A Year of Daily Wisdom


It does me no injury for my neighbor to say there are twenty gods or no god. It neither picks my pocket nor breaks my leg.
– Thomas Jefferson

Everything that irritates us about others can lead us to an understanding of ourselves.
– Carl Jung

The release of atomic energy has not created a new problem. It has merely made more urgent the necessity of solving an existing one.
– Albert Einstein

Every tomorrow has two handles. We can take hold of it with the handle of anxiety or the handle of faith.
– Henry Ward Beecher

A man came to a guru and challenged him, “I will give you an orange if you can show me where God is.” The guru answered, “I will give you two oranges if you can show me where God is not.”
– Author Unknown

The spiritual pathway to enlightenment is unique. It is not the same as ‘practicing a religion.’ Religions tend to emphasize historical events, their geographical locations, and past cultures with political alliances. Enlightenment happens in the present moment and is outside time, history, or geography which are there irrelevant.
– David R. Hawkins

There are two sources of error stemming from traditional ‘true’ religions. The first is simply misunderstanding or misinterpretation of the specific teachings of the original great teacher. Because the original listeners, or followers, were not themselves enlightened, the original teachings were contaminated by their egos. This then became magnified by subsequent translators and scribes down through the generations. The warp often is due to the fact that the ego has a tendency to be literal in its hearing of the word rather than the spirit or essence of a teaching. Any translation that teaches anything other than peace of love is in error. This is a basic rule and easy to spot.
– David R. Hawkins

Judgment means that you view the world as you are, rather than as it is.
– Wayne Dyer, Everyday Wisdom

What you think about expands. If your thoughts are centered on what’s missing, then what’s missing, by definition, will have to expand.
– Wayne Dyer, Everyday Wisdom

Fear is the cheapest room in the house.  I would like to see you living in better conditions.
– Hafiz

The intuitive mind is a sacred gift and the rational mind is a faithful servant. We have createda society that honours the servant and has forgotten the gift.
– Albert Einstein

Act as if you are worthy to have what you want, and the universe will prove you correct.
– Alan Cohen

For those of you I haven’t told yet, Kayla broke up with me last
Saturday.  Please, if she asks for your support, give it to
her.  She is still in the middle of a hard life.  Yes, I miss
her, but I can take care of myself… with some help from all
y’all.  I wanted to wait to post this until I got up the nerve to
tell my parents.

I’m glad to say I have grown a great deal in the past year, and have a
much better idea of where I need to continue my growth.  If Kayla
hadn’t been with me, I might not have made it through.


An act of love that fails is just as much a part of the divine life as
a act of love that succeeds, for love is measured by fullness, not by
– Harold Loukes

Love is like playing the piano. First you must learn to play by the
rules, then you must forget the rules and play from your heart.
– Anonymous

Love is the only thing you get more of by giving it away.
– Tom Wilson

Love is not written on paper, for paper can be erased. Nor is it etched
on stone, for stone can be broken. But it is inscribed on a heart and
there it shall remain forever.
– Anonymous

Marriage is the triumph of imagination over intelligence. Second marriage is the triumph of hope over experience.
– Anonymous

Things are going so well in one part of my life and so poorly in another.  I really miss my Kayla, but am afraid she has stopped missing me.  Snif.  Anyhow, got another quiz to report.

P. B. Shelley
You are Percy Bysshe Shelley!  Famous for your
dreamy abstraction and your quirky verse,
you’re the model “sensitive poet.”  A
vegetarian socialist with great personal charm
and a definite way with the love poem, you
remain an idol for female readers.  There are
dozens of cute anecdotes about you, and I love

Which Major Romantic Poet Would You Be (if You Were a Major Romantic Poet)?
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“Everytime” by Brittney Spears.
notice me
And take my hand
So why are we
Strangers when
Our love is strong
Why carry on without me?

And every time I try to fly
I fall without my wings
I feel so small
I guess I need you baby
And every time I see you in my dreams
I see your face, it’s haunting me
I guess I need you baby

I make believe
That you are here
It’s the only way
I see clear
What have I done
You seem to move on easy

And every time I try to fly
I fall without my wings
I feel so small
I guess I need you baby

And every time I see you in my dreams
I see your face, it’s haunting me
I guess I need you baby

I may have made it rain
Please forgive me
My weakness caused you pain
And this song is my sorry


At night I pray
That soon your face
Will fade away

And every time I try to fly
I fall without my wings
I feel so small
I guess I need you baby
And every time I see you in my dreams
I see your face, it’s haunting me
I guess I need you baby

After all…
After all…

Which song is most representative of you? (Ten Results)
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“Everytime” by Brittney Spears.

OK, I’m still busy, but things are getting better.  I’ve collected
all the emails regarding Global Playback Theatre for Kindness Day…
now I have to organize them into a spreadsheet, gleaning certain
information about their performance in November … whether they will
participate, where the performance will be, etc.  I should have
that done by sometime tomorrow (Wednesday).

I was notified today that I’m a $100 winner in a sweepstakes I actually
entered (and is a reputable company — I do surveys for them, and each
completed survey enters me in the sweepstakes).

My Kayla is sick today, and I didn’t get enough time for her. 
Waaaaah.  Been really busy, and getting things done, though.

Here’s a quote to keep you going.


Live your life so that the fear of death can never enter your heart.
When you arise in the morning, give thanks for the morning light. Give
thanks for your life and strength. Give thanks for your food and for
the joy of living. And if perchance you see no reason for giving
thanks, rest assured the fault is in yourself.
– Chief Tecumseh, (1768-1813), Shawnee

I’m sorry I haven’t written much lately.  I’ve been so busy.

Take today.  I got woke up at 10 am by a guy who bought a computer
from me but forgot the adapters and power cord.  I had placed an
ad in the same paper he read to buy it from me, and he called me a week
ago to schedule, cancelled, rescheduled, didn’t show up… and a week
later, knocks on my door at 10 am.

I got up, took my supplements, did my meditation, read my email, got my
snail mail, and went to get something to eat.  After that, at 2 pm
I went to the weekly meeting of the Asheville Homeless Network. 
We had a great meeting, very good attendance, got a lot done. 
Father Tom stated that he liked coming to our meeting — we are working
WITH the homeless, the other groups are working FOR the homeless. 
I went home and started typing up my report on the meeting.

At 3 pm I had class with my student, Sapphire Spirit.  We had a
long chapter to cover, it took a full 2 hours.  I then had her and
her husband drop me off at Wal*mart to get some paper and food.  I
took the bus back home.

A half hour after returning home (now 6:45) I noticed that my alarm had
not gone off for my 7 pm meeting.  I looked at my phone — and
found that the meeting was a 6 pm.  I grabbed my stuff and walked
the 1/2 mile to the meeting site.  This was a meeting called
Conversations of Kindness, sponsored by The Kindness Campaign, for
which I am a frequent volunteer.  After hearing the new Chief of
Police talk and answer some questions (including one of mine, which he
dodged nicely but not so nicely that everyone didn’t notice), he left
and we broke into focus groups.  I had my own focus group, on, of
course, the topic of Asheville’s homeless population and what we can do
for and with them.  Barry, the founder of the Kindness Campaign,
joined in my group.  We came up with some great ideas.

After helping clean up after the meeting, I walked home.  When I
got there, I had to finish typing up the AHN meeting notes and post
them to email and to the website; type up the Kindness Campaign meeting
notes and post them to Barry, AHN, and the AHN website; and make some
corrections to both the document file and the website file for the
chapter we read in Class today.  I then called my sweetie again
and talked to her a little bit, and talked for about a minute to my
friend Ale (in Brazil).

I got my email cleaned up again (another 35 or so messages), read some
of my forums, and collected the sayings for the post below.  It is
now 1:45 am.  I’m about bushed, but need to spend some time
winding down.

This has become almost a typical day for me.  The world should be perfect in a week at this rate, LOL.


I have chosen the way of forgiveness, because it alone undoes the lock
of time upon the wound. When there is no time, there is no wound. Let
go of the past, and you will have no grievances. It is simple, is it
not? Time makes the wound seem real. It makes death seem real. It makes
all the changes that happen in your life seem real. Yet none of these
are real.
– Paul Ferrini, Love Without Conditions

love is good, too: love being difficult. For one human being to love
another: that is perhaps the most difficult of all our tasks, the
ultimate, the last test and proof, the work for which all other work is
but preparation.
– Rainer Marie Rilke

Only two things are infinite, the universe and human stupidity, and I’m not sure about the former.
– Albert Einstein

A life spent making mistakes is not only more honorable but more useful than a life spent doing nothing.
– George Bernard Shaw

I keep my ideals, because in spite of everything I still believe that people are really good at heart.
– Anne Frank

The most beautiful thing we can experience is the mysterious. It is the source of all true art and science.
– Albert Einstein

has advanced, when it has advanced, not because it has been sober,
responsible, and cautious, but because it has been playful, rebellious,
and immature.
– Tom Robbins

Reality is nothing but a collective hunch.
– Lily Tomlin

Disbelief in magic can force a poor soul into believing in government and business.
– Tom Robbins

If you can spend a perfectly useless afternoon in a perfectly useless manner, you have learned how to live.
– Lin Yutang

was this Hindu who saw a scorpion floundering around in the water. He
decided to save it by stretching out his finger, but the scorpion stung
him. The man still tried to get the scorpion out of the water, but the
scorpion stung him again.  A man nearby told him to stop trying to
save the scorpion that kept stinging him.  But the Hindu said: “It
is the nature of the scorpion to sting. It is my nature to love. Why
should I give up my nature to love just because it is the nature of the
scorpion to sting?”
– author unknown

No question is unheard,
and no question goes unanswered. “Ask and you shall receive” is the
rule, but you must learn how to ask and how to receive.
– Gary Zukav, The Seat of the Soul

make the assumption that everyone sees life the way we do. We assume
that others think the way we think, feel the way we feel, judge the way
we judge, and abuse the way we abuse. This is the biggest assumptions
that humans make. And this is why we have a fear of being ourselves
around others. Because we think everyone else will judge us, victimize
us, abuse us, and blame us as we do ourselves. So even before others
have a chance to reject us, we have already rejected ourselves. That is
the way the human mind works.
– Don Miguel Ruiz, The Four Agreements

are in another sense already God.  This is the ultimate truth. You
are made of God and are an indivisible part of God.  As is
everything. The whole existence is God in motion. The sensitivity you
feel is God.  The awareness you have is God. Your love is God. The
veil of separation, your ego, is God.  Even though this is the
ultimate truth, it can become a trap if you believe it without
experiential verification. Premature belief prevents authentic
discovery. Be absolutely rigorous about what you know from your
experience and what is borrowed knowledge. We have enough parrots of
teachers and scriptures already. The solution is to remain an inner
scientist. Verify everything with your intelligence and experience.
Your soul does not have any clear memory of Source. In that sense, you
are lost in samsara groping towards the light. This is your experience
and is therefore the most real for you. Yet Source is in you animating
your every move, thought and feeling. Life is paradoxical.

The fast way to grow is to stick to your experience. This prevents
most of the spiritual traps from catching you. At the same time, try to
understand the big picture and how you fit into it. You can understand
that consciousness is all there is, and God is awareness of
consciousness. This means you are a part of God with no memory of where
you come from. Still, do not believe anything till you know. What you
always know is the energy of the moment. This moment of life is who you
are right now. Become more sensitive to this miraculous moment of life
happening in you. Allow the energy of Now to take you where it wants to
go. Give more space to the silence between thoughts.
– Maitreya

What we believe we also experience. What happens for many people when
they begin to work with visualizations and realizing desires is that
they are completly unaware of how their unconscious beliefs control the
outcome. For example, if you work on creating a healthy body but deep
down don’t actually believe you can do it, your goal will be sabotaged
by that negative self-talk, and the work will not be successful. Our
inner conversations do have an effect on what we manifest in our lives.
– Sandra Ingerman, Medicine For the Earth

cannot destroy an old belief system while we are maintaining and
defending it.  That’s no different than arm wrestling with
yourself.   We discard the old by re-directing the energy
that we are giving it.
– Carson’s Commentary



1) No matter how hard you try, you can’t baptize cats.
2) When your Mom is mad at your Dad, don’t let her brush your hair.
3) If your sister hits you, don’t hit her back. They always catch the second person.
4) Never ask your 3-year old brother to hold a tomato.
5) You can’t trust dogs to watch your food.
6) Don’t sneeze when someone is cutting your hair.
7) Never hold a Dust-Buster and a cat at the same time.
8) You can’t hide a piece of broccoli in a glass of milk.
9) Don’t wear polka-dot underwear under white shorts.
10) The best place to be when you’re sad is Grandpa’s lap.


1) Raising teenagers is like nailing Jell-O to a tree.
2) Wrinkles don’t hurt.
3) Families are like fudge…mostly sweet, with a few nuts.
4) Today’s mighty oak is just yesterday’s nut that held its ground.
5) Laughing is good exercise. It’s like jogging on the inside.
6) Middle age is when you choose your cereal for the fiber, not the toy.


1) Growing up is mandatory; growing old is optional.
2) Forget the health food. I need all the preservatives I can get.
3) When you fall down, you wonder what else you can do while you’re down there.
4) You’re getting old when you get the same sensation from a rocking chair that you once got from a roller coaster.
5) It’s frustrating when you know all the answers but nobody bothers to ask you the questions.
6) Time may be a great healer, but it’s a lousy beautician.
7) Wisdom comes with age, but sometimes age comes alone.


1) You believe in Santa Claus.
2) You don’t believe in Santa Claus.
3) You are Santa Claus.
4) You look like Santa Claus.


At age 4 success is … not peeing in your pants.
At age 12 success is … having friends.
At age 16 success is … having a drivers license.
At age 35 success is … having money.
At age 50 success is … having money.
At age 70 success is … having a drivers license.
At age 75 success is … having friends.
At age 80 success is … not peeing in your pants.