Monthly Archive: February 2006

There are three kinds of bodily sick people:
One will recover by himself, even without any doctor & any medicine..
One will never recover, even if treated by the best doctor & best medicine..
One will only recover if treated by the right medicine after the doctors advice..
It is for the sake of this last person that doctors work and medicine is made!

Similarly with those mentally infected by grades of greed, hate & ignorance:
One will cure & free himself, even without meeting this Buddha-Dhamma…
One will never be cured, even if taught this Dhamma by the Buddha himself…
One will be cured & freed, if & only if, taught & learning this Buddha-Dhamma…
It is for the sake of this last type of person, that this Dhamma should be shared!

Source (abbreviated excerpt):
The Numerical Sayings of the Buddha. Anguttara Nikaya. Sutta III:22
The sick [I:120] Gilana


Love is within us. It cannot be destroyed. It can be ignored. To the
extent that we abandon love we will feel it has abandoned us. Denying
love is our only problem, and embracing it is the only answer. Through
the power of love, we can let go of past history and begin again. Love
heals, forgives, and makes whole.
– Ernest Holmes

A long standing resentment is called a grievance. To carry a grievance
is to be in a permanent state of ‘against,’ and that is why grievances
constitute a significant part of many people’s ego…a grievance is a
strong negative emotion connected to an event in the sometimes distant
past that is being kept alive by compulsive thinking, by retelling the
story in the head or out loud of ‘what someone did to me’ or ‘what
someone did to us.’ A grievance will also contaminate other areas of
your life.
– Eckhart Tolle, A New Earth

The truth, the path to the divine, the life of the witness runs through
your heart. There is no way, no truth, no life, except through you.
– Paul Ferrini, Reflections of The Christ Mind

Do you fully realize how very rich you are? Or do you instead choose to
focus on lack and limitation? You are alive and aware in a universe
that is filled with endless possibilities. And as each new moment
arrives, those possibilities increase. It makes no sense to think of
your life in terms of what you don’t have. For that kind of thinking
cuts you off from the real richness that can be yours. Take just one
small positive thing in your life and spend a little time truly
appreciating it. The more you focus on the goodness, the more of it
there will be. The more fully you realize how rich you are, the more
access you’ll have to that richness. The more you appreciate the
positive possibilities, the more valuable those possibilities become.
No matter what your situation or circumstance, life is filled with the
richness of positive possibilities. See that richness and you will
begin to truly live it.
– Ralph Marston

Look well into thyself; there is a source of strength which will always spring up if thou wilt always look there.
– Marcus Aurelius Antoninus

We’re all in place to do something of great magnitude and courage. It
does not have to be anything of wide scope, or even something that a
lot of people know about. It’s about touching the lives of people that
cross our path.
– James Redfield

Things which matter most must never be at the mercy of things that matter least.
– Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

When we live without connectedness, without an illumination of spirit,
we can feel in ourselves the deep longing of a lost child, a subtle
longing as though we know something essential is missing, something
that dances at the edge of our vision, always with us like the air we
forget until the wind blows. Yet it is this elusive spirit which holds
us completely, which nourishes the heart, summoning us toward our
search for what life is all about. We are pulled to return to our true
nature, to our wise and knowing heart.
– Jack Kornfield
The deepest hunger of the human soul is to be understood, to feel
heard, to feel validated… The deepest hunger of the human body is for
air. If you can listen to another person, in depth, until they feel
understood, its the equivalent of giving them air.
– Steven Covey
Do not withhold your gift from others. Do not make the mistake of
thinking that you have no gift to give. Everyone has a gift. But don’t
compare your gift to the gifts of others, or you may not value it
– Paul Ferrini

Even though you may want to move forward in your life, you may have one
foot on the brakes. In order to be free, we must learn how to let go.
Release the hurt. Release the fear. Refuse to entertain your old pain.
The energy it takes to hang onto the past is holding you back from a
new life.
– Mary Manin Morrissey

Enjoy present pleasures in such a way as not to injure future ones.
– Seneca

Although the world is full of suffering, it is full also of the overcoming of it.
– Helen Keller

I have never been especially impressed by the heroics of people who are
convinced they are about to change the world. I am more awed by those
who struggle to make one small difference after another.
– Ellen Goodman

Stop waiting…
Until your car or home is paid off
Until you get a new car or home
Until your kids leave the house
Until you go back to school
Until you finish school
Until you lose 10 lbs.
Until you gain 10 lbs.
Until you get married
Until you get a divorce
Until you have kids
Until you retire
Until summer
Until spring
Until winter
Until fall
Until you die
There is no better time than right now to be happy.
Happiness is a journey, not a destination.

– Anonymous


“To forgive is to know love.”

“Holding a grudge is so commonplace that we do it unconsciously. We
imagine getting even, even for the smallest infractions. Why is this so
important to us? There’s only one reason. We live, too often, from the
ego’s perspective rather than the Holy Spirit’s, and the ego can’t
perceive love in its many guises, or the appeal for healing and help.
The Holy Spirit performs that miracles for us.

How do we go from holding a grudge to feeling forgiveness? The path is
always the same. We can make this simple request: “Holy Spirit, please
help me feel and see only love.” Making the request as often as
necessary is the key to forgiveness. There is no preferred time line.
Some days we’ll make the journey to peacefulness quickly and
efficiently. At other times we’ll have to “change our minds” repeatedly.

It doesn’t matter how long it takes us to really know forgiveness. Once
we do, nothing will ever look quite the same again. Nothing will ever
feel quite the same either.

“I will reap the benefit of letting go of grudges and forgiving others today.”

– Karen Casey, Daily Meditations for Practicing the Course


    1. The gift of listening–Why not give this valuable
gift to someone who lives alone?  And you must really
listen.  No interrupting, no daydreaming, no planning your
responses.  Just listen.

    2. The gift of signs of affection–Be generous with
your hugs, kisses, and gentle squeezes of the hand.  Let these
tiny actions demonstrate the love inside YOU.

    3. The gift of a note–It can be as simple as “I
Love You” or as creative as a sonnet.  Put your notes where they
will surprise your loved ones.

    4. The gift of laughter–Just cut out a cartoon,
save a clever article.  Your gift will say, “I live to laugh with

    5. The gift of a compliment–A simple “You look good
in blue” or “I like your hair” or “Good supper, honey” can be of
greatest value to those who may feel they are being taken for granted.

    6. The gift of a favor–Help with dishes, clean out the basement, etc.

    7. The gift of leaving alone–There are times in our
lives when we want nothing better than to be left alone.  Become
more sensitive to those times and give solitude.

    8. The gift of a cheerful disposition–Try to be cheerful around those you love especially.

    9. The gift of a game–Offer to play your loved
one’s favorite game.  Even if you lose, you’ll be a winner.

   10. The gift of prayer–Pray for those people on your gift
lists and let them know that you pray for them.  Praying for
someone is a way of saying, “You are so special to me that I talk to
God about you.”

(author unknown)

Louise Hay’s 12 Commandments For Happiness

Criticism never changes a thing. Refuse to criticize yourself. Accept
yourself exactly as you are. Everybody changes. When you criticize
yourself, your changes are negative. When you approve of yourself, your
changes are positive.

Let the past go. You did the best you could at the time with the
understanding, awareness, and knowledge that you had. Now you are
growing and changing, and you will live life differently.

Stop terrorizing yourself with your thoughts. It’s a dreadful way to
live. Find a mental image that gives you pleasure, and immediately
switch your scary thought to a pleasure thought.

Be gentle with yourself. Be kind to yourself. Be patient with yourself
as you learn the new ways of thinking. Treat yourself as you would
someone you really loved.

Self-hatred is only hating your own thoughts. Don’t hate yourself for having the thoughts. Gently change your thoughts.

Criticism breaks down the inner spirit. Praise builds it up. Praise
yourself as much as you can. Tell yourself how well you are doing with
every little thing.

Find ways to support yourself. Reach out to friends and allow them to
help you. It is being strong to ask for help when you need it.

Acknowledge that you created them to fulfill a need. Now you are
finding new, positive ways to fulfill those needs. So lovingly release
the old negative patterns.

Learn about nutrition. What kind of fuel does your body need in order
to have optimum energy and vitality? Learn about exercise. What kind of
exercise do you enjoy? Cherish and revere the temple you live in.

Look into your eyes often. Express this growing sense of love you have
for yourself. Forgive yourself while looking into the mirror. Talk to
your parents while looking into the mirror. Forgive them, too. At least
once a day, say “I love you, I really love you!”

Don’t wait until you get well, or lose the weight, or get the new job,
or find the new relationship. Begin now—and do the best you can.

Remember the things that gave you joy as a child. Incorporate them into
your life now. Find a way to have fun with everything you do. Let
yourself express the joy of living. Smile. Laugh. Rejoice, and the
Universe rejoices with you!

The ideals which have lighted my way, and time after time have given me
new courage to face life cheerfully, have been kindness, beauty, and
– Albert Einstein

Love is the magician that pulls man out of his own hat.
– Ben Hecht

Past the seeker as he prayed came the crippled and the beggar and the
beaten. And seeing them… he cried, ˜Great God, how is it that a
loving creator can see such things and yet do nothing about them?…
God said, ˜I did do something. I made you.’
– Sufi Teaching

The descent into the darkness of our own psyche is essential to our
healing process.  Without the descent, we cannot become
 – Paul Ferrini

The unforgiving mind is full of fear, and offers love no room to be
itself; no place where it can spread its wings in peace and soar above
the turmoil of the world. The unforgiving mind is sad, without the hope
of respite and release from pain. It suffers and abides in misery,
peering about in darkness, seeing not, yet certain of the danger
lurking there.
– Gifts from A Course In Miracles

Spiritual Thoughts

Share your heart with the world.  Share willingly, openly,
joyfully what you have seen, what you have learned. Don’t tell people
how you think you should have handled things. That’s shame. It teachers
others to feel ashamed, too. Don’t tell people how you wish you had
handled things. That’s needless regret that we pass on to others. 

Share honestly and openly about yourself, the way you felt, the things
you thought. Share how going through your experience changed you. Talk
about your resistance, your pain, the imperfect way you did things, the
way you handle things now.

Sharing honestly and openly teaches people around us the most helpful
truth – that the imperfect way we live our lives is right for us at the
time. When we love and accept ourselves enough to honestly share who we
are, it helps those we touch to believe that they’re good enough too.

Sharing your heart with the world and you will bring healing to those you touch.
– Melody Beattie

Problems cannot be solved at the same level of awareness that created them.
– Albert Einstein

…what I am proposing is that you open yourself to an idea that allows
you to gradually and steadily remember your identity as a divine
spiritual connected-to-God entity. In moments you previously labeled as
stressful or problematic, you will begin to see the fruits of good
deeds (another way of saying problem solving) show up without having to
labor long and hard to solve your difficulty.
– Wayne Dyer, There’s a Spiritual Solution to Every Problem

Spirituality is very similar to health. Everyone has health. For some
their health is excellent and for others it is poor, yet you cannot
escape having it at some level or another. The same is true for
spirituality. Every single human being is a spiritual being.
– Wayne Dyer, There’s a Spiritual Solution to Every Problem

We each journey on a path of mistakes. When I look back, I don’t have a
consistent interpretation of which acts were victories or defeats. And
I have seen the same childhood circumstances as both damaging and
beneficial. This much is clear: Many important gains have come on the
heels of my greatest mistakes. Progress is the process of correcting
mistakes, not of being perfect. Today I will make starting over more
important than looking back. Those who make no mistakes have already
arrived. I simply don’t know what mistakes anyone needs to make.
Therefore, I am in no position to be ‘helpful’.
– Hugh Prather, Morning Notes

God knows the way to my heart. God is not nearer because we think about
God. God could not be nearer. God’s strength is our strength. God’s
life is our life. God’s happiness is our happiness. We are each made
out of God. Even now, God breathes into us our purpose, our motivation,
and our fulfillment.
– Hugh Prather, Morning Notes

Negative emotions have a place in intimacy. They need to be released in
order to be detoxed. Having negative emotions doesn’t make us bade.
Thinking that they do is what keeps so many people from exposing their
emotions. It is when our feelings – all our feelings – are revealed
appropriately and then forgiven that we have a chance to heal.
– Marianne Williamson, A Year of Daily Wisdom

If you can recognize illusion as illusion, it dissolves. The
recognition of illusion is also its ending. Its survival depends on
your mistaking it for reality. In the seeing of who you are not, the
reality of who you are emerges by itself.
– Eckhart Tolle

Questions of Happiness

Someone sent me this list.  I thought it was really cool… 
but don’t like starting these things.  Tell you what, you send me
your answers (to ) and I’ll send you mine back.


* What gives you the most happiness in your life?
* What were your greatest moments?
* What are your favorite childhood memories?
* What are some of the nicest things that people have said to you?
* What was your best vacation?
* What makes you smile?
* What makes you laugh?
* Who makes you feel good just by being in that person’s presence?
* What do you enjoy reading?
* What songs put you in positive states?
* What is your favorite possession?
* What is your favorite day of the year?
* When have you unexpectedly had a better time than you thought you would?
* When have you been pleasantly surprised by the way something you did turned out?
* When did you feel you would succeed and you actually did?
* When have you felt joy about seeing someone you hadn’t seen in a long time?!
* What praises and positive feedback have you appreciated?
* What is the nicest thing a teacher ever told you?
* When did you surprise yourself by being more skillful at something than you thought you could?
* How do you look when you smile at yourself in a mirror?
* When has someone given you a gift that you greatly appreciated?
* What do you consider your wisest decision?
* What advice do you have for others to increase their happiness?
* What did you do for someone else that you felt great about?
* What is the nicest thing a total stranger ever did for you?
* What have you been grateful for in the past?
* What are you grateful for in the present?
* When have you felt joyous for no special reason?
* What healthy activities give you a natural high?
* When were you about to give up and someone’s encouragement kept you motivated?
* (For grandparents): What is a clever thing one of your grandchildren said?
* What is your favorite question that anyone ever asked you?

We Are Being Called

We Are Being Called

Sharon Oxendine

We are being called by our Ancestors to return to the Medicine Wheel of Life.

We are being called to the East, the place of the Eagle and the element
of Fire, we must now know who we are, the time for remembering is over.

We are being called to the North, the place of the White Buffalo and
the element of Air, we are being called to the Spirit walk of life and
we must circle our selves with protection.

We are being called to the West, the place of the Bear, the element of
Water, we are being called to embrace and honor the element of Water by
listening to her as she moves through our rivers and streams of life.

We are being called to the South, the place of coyote, the element of
Earth, we are being called to trust, the chaos and confusion in our
world as part of a great change that is coming.

We are being called to bring in the Grandmothers, the divine feminine, into all of our ceremonies and rituals.

We are being called to look a little deeper at our friends and our
enemies and find a place in our deep and wise souls to show compassion
and kindness.

We are being called by the Stars, the Moon and the Sun in a voice that
many will recognize.  We are now the teachers we have been seeking.

We are being called to stand up for our truth and to sit down and
listen to those who are not being heard.  It is those who are
called mentally ill and addicts, they are the ones who are bringing in
the prophecies.

We are being called to be guardians over the animals, especially those
that have been abused or neglected.  The animals are our teachers
of love and joy.

We are being called to transpire the grief we have felt for years into
action and call on the Earth, Air, Fire and Water to support us now on
our Earth walk.

We are being called and all we have to do is listen.

Twenty Special Secrets

The Power of Love Among People – “Twenty Special Secrets”
(From “Mystic Path to Cosmic Power” by Vernon Howard)
1.  When two people meet, the prize always goes to the one with
the most self-insight.  He will be calmer, more confident, more at
ease with the other.
2.  Never permit the behavior of other people to tell you how to feel.
3.  Pay little attention to what people say or do.  Instead,
try to see their innermost motive for speaking and acting.  (Now,
apply this very same rule to yourself and you become an enlightened
4.  Any friendship requiring the submission of your original nature and dignity to another person is all wrong.
5.  Mystically speaking, there is no difference between you and
another person.  This is why we cannot hurt another without
hurting ourselves, nor help another without helping ourselves.
6.  When we are free of all unnecessary desires toward other people, we can never be deceived or hurt.
7.  You take a giant step toward psychological maturity when you
refuse to angrily defend yourself against unjust slander.  For one
thing, resistance disturbs your own peace of mind.
8.  You understand others to the exact degree that you really understand yourself. Work for more self-knowledge.
9.  Do not be afraid to fully experience everything that happens
to you in your human relations, especially the pains and
disappointments. Do this, and everything becomes clear at last.
10.  The individual who really knows what it means to love has no anxiety when his love is unseen and rejected.
11.  If you painfully lose a valuable friend, do not rush out at
once for a replacement.  Such action prevents you from examining
your heartache and breaking free of it.
12.  Do not be afraid to be a nobody in the social world. 
This is a deeper and richer truth than appears on the surface.
13.  Every unpleasant experience with another person is an
opportunity to see people as they are, not as we mistakenly idealize
them. The more unpleasant the other person is, the more he can teach
14.  You can be so wonderfully free from a sense of injury and
injustice that you are surprised when you hear others complain of them.
15.  We cannot recognize a virtue in another person that we do not
possess in ourselves.  It takes a truly loving and patient person
to recognize those virtues in another.
16.  Do not mistake desire for love.  Desire leaves home in a
frantic search for one gratification after another.  Love is at
home with itself.
17.  There are parts of you that want the loving life and parts
that do not. Place yourself on the side of your positive forces; do all
you can to aid and encourage them.
18.  You must stop living so timidly, from fixed fears of what
others will think of you and of what you will think of yourself.
19.  Do not contrive to be a loving person; work to be a real person. Being real is being loving.
20.  The greatest love you could ever offer to another is to so
transform your life that others are attracted to your genuine example
of goodness.

Believing in yourself is not just for you; it’s for every person who
has touched your life in a significant way and for every person your
life will touch the same way five minutes from now,
or five centuries from now.
– Anon

If someone talked to you the way you talk to yourself, you would have left them a long time ago.
– Carla Gordan

To love and be loved is to feel the sun from both sides.
– David Viscott

Despite what your subconscious may be telling you, you can have love
with no limits. The key is to unconditionally love yourself first.
– Cynthia Legette Davis

When love is missing in our lives, we must look at ourselves and see
how we are not being loving to ourselves and to others. Since what we
give out comes back, then if we’re short on love, we need to give
ourselves and others love, and then there will be plenty of love to go
– Marie T. Russell

Let God be your teacher. Let the Tao flower in you. You don’t need to
control things anymore. When you are willing to be helpful, life flows
through you. You become the channel, the means by which love without
conditions can reach into the world.
– Paul Ferrini

As you push our your thoughts and revel in the silence, you will feel
the energy of the loving presence flowing through you. Give yourself a
holy instant to make a silent affirmation that you are with God.
– Wayne Dyer
Fear grows out of the things we think; it lives in our minds.
Compassion grows out of the things we are, and lives in our hearts.
– Barbara Garrison

Align with your life purpose by focusing on BEING the truth of who you
are. Focus on transforming all of the fear inherent in your body about
BEING who you are born to be. Then the doing becomes a natural
expression of who you are, as easy as an apple tree making apples.
– Colleen-Joy Page
When you meet anyone, remember it is a holy encounter. As you treat
them you will treat yourself. As you think of them you will think of
yourself. Never forget this, for in them you will find yourself or lose
your Self.
A Course in Miracles
You progress not through improving what has been done, but reaching toward what has yet to be done.
– Kahlil Gibran
Humility does not mean you think less of yourself. It means you think of yourself less.
– Ken Blanchard
A bird doesn’t sing because it has an answer; it sings because it has a song.
– Maya Angelou

Life, at its best, is a flowing, changing process in which nothing is
fixed. I find I am at my best when I can let the flow of my experience
carry me, in a direction which appears to be forward, toward a goal of
which I am but dimly aware. In thus floating with the complex stream of
my experiencing and in trying to understand its ever-changing
complexity, it should be evident that there are no fixed points. When I
am thus able to be in the process, it is clear that there can be no
closed system of beliefs, no unchanging set of principles that I hold.
Life is guided by a changing of and interpretation of my experience. It
is always in process of becoming.
– (Mister) Carl Rogers
You may only feel like a drop in the ocean, but I tell you this, you
have the power of the ocean inside of you — and the ocean knows you,
even if you have forgotten the ocean. When you find the ocean in you,
you will feel like the river the runs towards the sea, not trying to
climb hills but simply flowing in accordance with the deeper calling
that draws you nearer to fully merge with your greatest self.
– Colleen-Joy Page

It is not action or effort that we must surrender; it is self-will, and
this is terribly difficult. You must do your best constantly, yet never
allow yourself to become involved in whether things work out the way
you want.
– Eknath Easwaran
When I dare to be powerful, to use my strength in the service of my
vision, then it becomes less and less important whether I am afraid.
– Audre Lorde
The world is not to be put in order; the world is order, incarnate. It is for us to harmonize with this order.
– Henry Miller

This universe that we live in operates according to set laws of nature
and unfolds according to orderly principles. Because of this, one does
not have to assume that choices are forced on us. There is also the
possibility of simple being, of letting the flow of life take care of
– Deepak Chopra

It is never easy to embrace a new way of doing things even when we know
it is in our best interest. Initially, we feel immobilized, and forcing
ourselves to do something new feels unnatural. But if we understand how
energy works, we realize that it is precisely this feeling that is
heralding a change for the better. We are stuck. We have gone as far as
we can go without doing something different. Unless we are willing to
stretch ourselves and reach out into the world, we will never be able
to create new forms to express who we are. We cannot use our inner life
as a weapon, retreating from a world that won’t let us hide. When we
do, we cut ourselves off from a lifeline of possibilities, fresh and
different ways to experience the world.
– Chandra Alexander
People are the way they are, and your need to dominate or change them
in any way is the edict of your false self. Your ego is, as usual,
trying to convince you of your separateness. It also doesn’t want you
to catch on to how it is controlling your life, so it convinces you
that if you don’t dominate others, they will get the best of you.
– Wayne Dyer
As we receive God’s love and impart it to others, we are given the power to repair the world.
– Marianne Williamson

If we don’t forgive ourselves for our mistakes, and others for the
wounds they have inflicted upon us, we end up crippled with guilt. And
the soul cannot grow under a blanket of guilt, because guilt is
isolating, while growth is a gradual process of reconnection to
ourselves, to other people, and to a larger whole.
– Joan Borysenko

And what is healing? Healing is joining. Healing is the coming together
that brings peace and denies separation. And healing, as I have told
you, is quite simply the release from the past. Because it is the past
that determines where you are, that defines your ego, that places
within your ego the demand to get and to become. And all of that is
really the demand to isolate yourself from your brothers and your
world. And as you would release the past, you shall be healed.
Brent Haskell
Keep your thoughts positive because your thoughts become your words.
Keep your words positive because your words become your behaviors. Keep
your behaviors positive because your behaviors become your habits. Keep
your habits positive because your habits become your values. Keep your
values positive because your values become your destiny.
– Mohandas Gandhi

Prejudiced thinking comes from treating your mind like a rental space
for the thoughts and beliefs of others. Learning to furnish your mind
with your personal interpretation, even for a moment, frees you to know
yourself and others through your higher self. When your mind is
occupied by prejudice, ego is the landlord.
– Wayne Dyer

Alone we can do nothing, but together our minds fude into something
whose power is far beyond the power of its separate parts. By not being
separate, the Mind of God is established in ours and as ours. The Mind
is invincible because it is undivided.
– Gifts from A Course In Miracles

There can be no form of suffering that fails to hide an unforgiving
thought. Nor can there be a form of pain forgiveness cannot heal.
– Gifts from A Course In Miracles

All of time is but the made belief that what is over is still here and now.
– Gifts from A Course In Miracles

When you maintain that you are guilty but the source of your guilt lies
in the past, you are not looking inward. The past is not in you. Your
weird associations to it have no meaning in the present. Yet you let
them stand between you and your brothers, with whom you find no real
relationships at all.
– Gifts from A Course In Miracles

Child of peace, the light has come to you. The light you bring you do
not recognize, and yet you will remember. Who can deny himself the
vision that he brings to others?
– Gifts from A Course In Miracles

The end of guilt will never come as long as you believe there is a
reason for it. For you must learn that guilt is always totally insane,
and has no reason.
– Gifts from A Course In Miracles

You cannot fly like an eagle with the wings of a wren.
– William Henry Hudson, Afoot in England, 1909

I have a problem.  I’ve never had this problem before.

I don’t have enough problems. 

And the ones I have go away. 

And good things are happening to me every day, all the time.

That’s not the problem.  The problem is, all my friends are still
having problems.  They don’t believe that all I did was change my
attitude, my way of looking at life in general.  And when it
really gets bad, they look at me like I’ve turned into an evangelist.

OK.  I’m going to miss a lot of you.  But “Ain’t It Awful”
was never a fun game for me, it usually meant that everyone was trying
to make ME awful.  I guess I have to move on.  That
hurts.  So my lack of problems has itself become a problem. 

I have enough friends left, even some who sometimes play the old game
but still cheer me on, that I won’t feel totally isolated.  And if
“the other shoe drops”, I will know that we all have setbacks,
and working up the setback will create new symptoms.  I don’t like
symptoms, so I won’t work myself up.

I think I like the new problem better.  It means good things keep happening to me.  I can live with that.