My grandmother is sometimes aware, other times (most times) confused.  She keeps insisting they have been bringing her breakfast, lunch, and dinner in the convalescent facility, whereas she is totally being fed by IV.  Mom bring her her mail, and she complains she should be home picking up her mail.  My parents are wearing themselves out keeping up her house and visiting her.

As for me, I might be taking a vacation soon.  I’m really worn to a frazzle with all my responsibilities, and it might be time to try another location and relax.

Tomorrow I’m going with my friend Lenny to talk to the Police Chief about his case.  It has been a while since I mentioned it, so here it is.  Lenny was arrested last year and spent 3 months in Buncombe County Jail on something he didn’t do, and the legal case is still not resolved.  (While Lenny was in jail, I was the only person who visited him.)  A former landlord confiscated all his property and kicked him out, then used his computer and files to send life-threatening letters to people in Lenny’s home state of New Hampshire.  All these had Lenny’s name on them, but no fingerprints or handwriting; many of them were mailed from all over the country, during the time he was either in the psych ward at the VA Hospital or in Buncombe County Jail, but the prosecutor in New Hampshire seems to think it’s easier to prosecute the victim than to look for the actual perpetrator of these crimes, regardless of the fact that Lenny gave them his name and address.  Nobody locally is investigating it either, which is odd since the perpetrator lives here.  I don’t know what the Police Chief can do, but I’m going with Lenny since I know the Police Chief and have some standing in the community.

My friend Singer is back in Asheville.  All her friends, including me, have missed her badly.  We hope to see her at the ARMHC meeting tomorrow night.

Guess that’s about it for now.

Hugs,
Me

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Healing Process: Steps 1 – 12

by Cheryl Canfield
STEP 1: TAKE CHARGE

It isn’t possible to make good, conscious decisions in the midst of confusion and shock. Slow down and don’t be rushed. Listen to your inner voice. Weigh the options and make decisions and choices based on what you feel is right for you. We stay far more empowered when we take charge and make decisions we feel good about.
STEP 2: DEVELOP AN EMPOWERED ATTITUDE

An empowered attitude is always in sync with inner guidance or a sense of rightness about something. Developing an empowered attitude requires a conscious effort to change any habits we have adopted that make us feel weak, overwhelmed, or powerless. An empowered attitude is one that knows that whatever the circumstances, you can and will find a way to keep or regain a sense of centeredness and strength within yourself.
STEP 3: CREATE A HEALING ENVIRONMENT

A healing environment is the foundation upon which we can live our lives more fully present and alive. The place to start constructing that environment is from within. We begin to create order out of chaos by first building an inner sanctuary where we can retreat at any time to reconnect with our centeredness and grounding. A healing environment is also something we can create externally by consciously transforming the space around us that we have control over — our offices and home environments — to be places that inspire us, lift our spirits, and connect us with our hearts.
STEP 4: PRACTICE FORGIVENESS

Forgiveness is often one of the hardest things to practice, but it is a powerful means of personal transformation. When we forgive we are saying, in essence, that we are no longer willing to carry around pain in response to someone else’s actions. Forgiveness is a core life lesson. It means cutting the cord of resentment and trusting God or spirit to bring that person the experiences he or she needs to heal.
STEP 5: EXPLORE ATTITUDES AND BELIEFS

Beliefs and attitudes can become so embedded in our subconscious minds that it’s easy to lose sight of them. We can even hold conflicting beliefs without being aware of it. The words we use to communicate are symbols of our internal beliefs and as we pay attention to the words we use (and the thoughts we think) we may discover attitudes and beliefs within ourselves that don’t support our healing.
STEP 6: TRANSFORM NEGATIVE FEELINGS — HEAL AND RELEASE THE PAST

Paying attention to how we spend our energy can provide major clues in the process of healing. When we hold on to bitterness or anger or fear toward another it is ourselves, not the object of our focus that is hurt. Holding on to negative feelings is simply an exhausting expenditure of energy that can lead to emotional and physical bankruptcy. To really heal we need to open up to the transforming power of compassion and forgiveness, both toward ourselves and others.
STEP 7: BUILD A SUPPORT SYSTEM

It’s common to feel isolated when facing a life-threatening or debilitating condition, even when surrounded by loved ones. We need and can appreciate the support from family and friends, but we also need support from more neutral sources — who can hear what we’re feeling without being hurt or shocked, or who have had similar experiences. A supportive counselor can be invaluable, as can a support group with empowering guidelines.
STEP 8: SIMPLIFY LIFE

Our lives are often so cluttered and busy that we find ourselves racing to keep up. What we lose are the simple basics of life that provide the balance we desperately need: walks in nature, unhurried time with our loved ones, precious quiet time alone for meditation or reading or just being mindfully grateful for the many gifts around us. Changes don’t have to happen overnight but if your life is tied up, start loosening the knots.
STEP 9: ESTABLISH PERSONAL INTEGRITY

In order to be at peace with ourselves we need to live from a place of personal integrity. Living with integrity means that we know ourselves well and can trust ourselves to do the right thing. If we can’t trust ourselves we don’t trust others. The best way to establish a sense of trust in life and safety in relationships is to practice personal integrity. It doesn’t matter what someone else is doing. What matters is how we choose to live our own lives.
STEP 10: EMBRACE INTUITION

Intuition is not a gift that some people have and others don’t. It’s a built in system that we all have; but as muscles that atrophy from lack of use, it simply becomes weak if we don’t pay attention. We’ve all felt it. It might be a hunch or an uncomfortable feeling that nudges us to do something. Too often, though, we don’t trust our intuitions when they come, especially when they seem silly or irrational. Too often, we simply don’t act on them. But if we continue to tune them out, we stop being aware of them.
STEP 11: LOVE YOURSELF

It sounds simple enough to love ourselves, but all too often we become so wrapped up in feelings of guilt or low self-esteem that it isn’t easy to do.. Most of us carry around an inner critical voice that is often called the critical parent. Considering this, most of us could benefit from consciously directing our inner dialogue to be that of an encouraging parent. An interesting thing about learning to give ourselves unconditional love is that it creates an opening that lets others in more fully.
STEP 12: DO ALL YOU CAN AND RELEASE THE REST

One of the biggest stressors we put on ourselves is trying to control situations or outcomes that are out of our hands. Whenever a difficulty or problem confronts us, we can break it down into components: the parts we can do something about, and those that we can release. There is a solution to every difficulty we encounter, a way through or around or over the top of the mountain. We have incredible potential and creativity within us, just waiting to be tapped.

This article was excerpted from Profound Healing, ©2004, by Cheryl Canfield.

Reprinted with permission of the publisher, Healing Arts Press. www.InnerTraditions.com

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The Creator designed us to learn by trial and  error. The path of life we walk is very wide. Everything on the path is  sacred – what we do right is sacred – but our mistakes are also sacred. This  is the Creator’s way of teaching spiritual people. To criticize ourselves  when we make mistakes is not part of the spiritual path. To criticize  mistakes is not the Indian way. To learn from our mistakes is the Indian way.  The definition of a spiritual person is someone who makes 30-50 mistakes  each day and talks to the Creator after each one to see what to do next  time. This is the way of the Warrior.

Today let me see my mistakes as a positive process. Let me  learn the aha’s of life… Awaken my awareness so I can see the great  learning that You, my Creator, have designed for my  life.

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